Fryeburg Maine Wedding at Hardy Farm | Courtney and Kat
Updated: Sep 11, 2019
It's been four long weeks and it's time to celebrate Courtney and Kat's marriage all over again! Start here with this slideshow, grab a drink press play. Then, when it's over, scroll through the photos, learn a little bit about these two, and then share to social media and with all of your family and friends!
While you're here, comment your favorite memories from the wedding below and let's turn this into a little memory book! I know, I know, my website host makes you "log in" (I can't remove it) but I promise I'm not going to be annoying about it, it's just to keep the jelly-haters out!
Courtney and Kat got married at Hardy Farm, a beautiful wedding venue in Fryeburg, Maine. It's perfect for them because it has an outdoor ceremony spot deep in the pine forest, but it also has a beautiful tented area, a yard for cocktail hour, and a barn for dancing! Farms and barn venues get a reputation for only being able to handle rustic or vintage-chic types of weddings, but Courtney, who is herself a wedding planner, took her day in a whole different direction with a rich blue, rusty florals, and lots of celestial touches. Stereotypes be damned!
I'm so lucky to know these two and to have been trusted to photograph their wedding. When I met them, I learned that Novare Res, a restaurant in Portland, was really important to them because the latin name means "to start a revolution." As a person who lives outside of the norms and feels constant pressure to conform, I understand exactly where they're coming from because it's pretty much revolutionary trying to live confidently as your authentic self in a world that doesn't always want to accept that. However, it wasn't until their wedding, when I met their friends and support groups and listened to the heartfelt speeches that I fully understood the incredible, strong, joyful, revolutionary world in which they are lucky enough to live.
To all of you wedding "professionals" who won't work with LGBTQ couples, you're really missing something wonderful.
Anyway, let me step down off my soap box and get back to Courtney and Kat! They have this weird cycle of life events that took their closest circle of friends around the country, then to New York City, then back to Maine. It was in NY where they met via mutual friends, ended up joking about kicking the men out of the lesbian bar, and bonding over more drinks and a kitty named after a drag queen. Courtney has a deep intuition and was drawn to Kat immediately even though she wasn't looking to date, but after only a couple months (very lesbian of her, she says) she knew this was going to be her wife!
Kat is quiet, but she will throw out zingers that you only barely hear, and when she laughs at herself in an understated way, it's the most contagious kind of laughter. Courtney is a much more extroverted kind of energy, and it's one that you can't help but feel comfortable around. They work together in a very intimate and intertwined way, and it's really magnetic. For instance, when I was interacting with them - and you can see this in the portrait progression, particularly the garden portraits - Kat would sometimes start to feel awkward or uncomfortable. I didn't interrupt like I normally would, because Courtney is so attuned to Kat that she would reach out her hand to show some physical affection and diffuse Kat's uncomfortable feelings without ever saying a word. I work with couples all the time and I consider myself quite psychological with a killer intuition, but I've never seen this sort of connection. One touch of the hand and some eye contact and all of those bad feelings left, how magical is that?
Courtney and Kat had beautiful details for their day. Their "unplugged" sign will forever be my favorite, sassy sign, even though some guests didn't oblige their request . . . naughty.
They filled their tables with vintage glass, organically grown florals, and a wonderful - possibly genius - combination of dark blue and rust/gold colors. I'm a wimp and would never be brave enough to even think of that color combo, but it is by far one of the best and most creative designs I've ever seen! Their table place cards had touches of watercolor and paint splatter and were held on a board by little clothes pins. This was so funny because I ran into multiple men who pinned these cards on their shirt pocket like a name tag 😂🤣
These are some questions I ask the couple before the wedding, I always get fun answers! By the way, it's totally quirky to confidently crack open a beer anytime, anywhere.
What's the most exciting/horrible date you've been on?
Surprising Kat with a fancy night out to see a burlesque show with dinner in NYC. I planned it because I felt like we needed to reconnect in a fun, new way and wanted to have an intimate date night with her. It definitely is one of my favorite memories in New York.
Each of you, what is your favorite quirk about the other?
Courtney: I'm not sure if this is a quirk but I think it's cool how Kat can open beer bottles with just about anything
Kat: I like how Courtney is kinda witchy and spiritual
Each of you, what is the most beautiful and captivating piece of the other?
Courtney: I think the most beautiful part of Kat is her resilience despite trauma and obstacles. She is such an inspiration to me and always makes me feel like everything will be alright.
Their hair and makeup (hello, modern Marilyn Monroe) was done by the Cut Off Salon in North Conway, NH. I can attest to the fact that Courtney's hair didn't lose a curl all night long - and it was hot! Their jewelry came from vintage places - YAY for being sustainable!!! The engagement ring is from Catherine Angiel in NYC, and their bands came from Market Square Jewelers, a jeweler in Portland that I frequently tout as the best place to go get some amazing, timeless, and sustainably made jewelry (hint, hint). Courtney's necklace is from Giador, her hair piece is from Crown and Glory, and that AHMAZING earring cuff was a gift from KatKim. Courtney's dress came from Mikaella at Kleinfeld, obviously one of the most premier bridal shops around. Kat's perfectly tailored suit is from Bindle & Keep.
The flowers came from Moonset Farms, a Maine Florist offering beautiful floral arrangement for weddings. I worked with Mike earlier on in the day, and he is wonderful! He's also a past-life Coastie, so maybe that's why we connected. Back on topic, though, their florals are incredible and these photos prove that! The food came from Brian at Farm to Coast Catering, a delicious catering company and mobile kitchen from Southern Maine. I literally had to swat people away from the appetizers just so I could get a photo, that's how in-demand they were! Also, I'm a total foodie and the biggest caesar salad critic you'll ever meet. I ate a full plate of their kale caesar and it was amazing! The rentals came from One Stop Event Rentals, the kick-ass rainbow cace is from Autumn Nomad, and the DJ was DJ Jodi, one of my favorite local DJ's! I worked with her on this Chebeague Island Inn wedding last fall and was so excited to work with her again!
Elusive Photography is a wedding photographer in Southern Maine serving all of New England, Southern Florida, Key West, and more! We are proud to be an LGTBQ+ ally, partner, friend, revolution-mate, and everything more than just "LGBT Friendly." We want to help show your love to the world with beautiful photographs, stripped of discomfort, free of prejudice, and completely, wonderfully intimate in all of the best and most timeless ways.
Courtney + Kat
Gown: Mikaella @kleinfeldbridal
Hair and Makeup: @thecutoffsalon
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